Happy Day All. I hope your Thursday has been filled to the brim with everything good. Today is my Friday so it was rather good for me. I love working 4 ten hour shifts and being off every Friday. This evening I’m gonna tell you a little sappy tale. So if you don’t like sappy I guess you better skip this one. Or read on because you might just learn a little something. Have you ever felt like it was you against the world? I guess I would be a liar if I said I haven’t had many of those days. I sure have. From jobs, to people, to health struggles, to being who I need to be. Sometimes I feel like it’s all I can do to be who I need to be. Sometimes I feel like even breaking on down. Then I realize who is in my shadow. The shadow that stands right behind me. My husband.
My husband and I have been together for ten years. No I know that doesn’t sound long especially for a 45 year old woman and a 54 year old man. We were of course, married before. I was married to my sons dad for 15 years and he was married to his ex-wife for 22 years. We’ve both been around the block before lol. All I can say is when you have been through a divorce before, it really makes you appreciate when you find your true love. Divorce is bad no matter the situation. I don’t care if you wanted it or not. It’s just generally tough. Even more so if a child is involved. Can I just say that you absolutely love differently after a divorce. Guarded yes, of course. But, also you know how it feels when things are bad. Friends when you find that person that completes you, you WILL know it. It’s like you heart stops and starts again with a brand new beat. It pumps stronger. It relaxes more. You just know. From our very first date, I knew. He obviously did too. That night we went to dinner and he told me that he loved me. It just slipped out. And I could tell it all over his face that it was a slip. It scared him to death. The look on his face was priceless. Truthfully, I felt the same way. It wasn’t very long until the “I love you” became a daily ritual. It still is. Not a day goes by that I don’t tell him or he tell me.
There is so much to a relationship. You never really realize exactly what you are signing up for when you walk down that isle and say your I Do’s. For us, these last years have been filled with so much good that I forget about the bad. Just like my momma said, “the good always outweighs the bad” and she is so right. Weve had so many wonderful vacations and adventures. We also dealt with some harder times with deaths in our families as well as health issues that we fought through together. Uuuum did you hear that? We fought through them TOGETHER. Aah there it is. The one thing that I never had in any previous relationship or with my ex-husband. My husband has supported me (as well as my son) in every adventure, crazy idea, good day and bad that we have had. For many years he has loved my son as his own. That in itself is enough to give him a star on his crown. But, he’s also loved me unconditionally. It’s nice to have someone in your corner.
For many years I have baked cakes for birthdays and weddings and every occasion in between. He is the one who encouraged that dream. He gives me my space when I need it and stays within arm’s length when I am needy. Yes, fellas we are all needy at some point. Suck it up and deal with that. He makes me feel smart when I tell myself I am done. He helps me to achieve my goals when I am about to give up. He tells me that I am beautiful when I feel fat and ugly (he needs his eyes checked lol). But more important than any of that, he stands behind me when I need his strength, beside of me when I need his courage, and in front of me when I need his direction.
With that being my sappy bragging session I just want to say, ladies, I hope and pray for each of you that you can find a man (or a partner) that can make you feel like you are a force to be reckoned with. I hope you can see through him that you are worth something. That when you wake up and he is next to you , you feel content and truly happy. I never in my life thought I would feel those wonderful feelings. I didn’t believe that a partner such as that existed. God was good. And he sent my husband to me. He gave me someone to take all of the tiny broken pieces of my heart and put them back together. I just hope, if your don’t have that love and support, you find it. Because lovely, you deserve it!
Fellas, (or partners), love here fierce. Make her feel like she still catches your eye. Tell her that she is your one and only. And for goodness’ sake ask her out on a date. (and put your phone away while you are on the date). I promise your rewards will be much more than what you give. Believe me it wont matter what is in front of her as long as she knows that you are behind her!!! (repeat that a million times). Have the very best night!
Always…….Brooke
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