Good evening and Happy Wednesday. Yes, we’ve almost made it through another week. Can you believe we are almost to March???? Wow has this year already began to fly or what! Last year was definitely one for the books and if you feel anything like me you are ready to write a new chapter. I remember when I was a little girl my mamaw used to say to be “don’t wish your life away”. I remember thinking how sssslllooowww the days would roll by. You know those thoughts that little kids have where they wish they were adults. I always wished that I would have my own house, my own husband, my own kids, and thinking how it would all be perfect. Well children let me tell ya something. It ain’t all its cracked up to be. You get all those things you wished for but you also get the bills with that house, the worries that come with children, and the roller coaster that comes with marriage. Oh and if you are sitting there saying that none of the bad goes with the good either you are fibbing to yourself or you are living in a fantasy lol. I know that you are thinking “wow this blog seems a little negative. Bear with me. It isn’t negative at all. In fact darling, I hope that reading this gives you a new light on your bad days and you learn to adjust your crown.
“And the prince kissed the princess and they lived happily ever after”. “He was her knight in shining armor and he carried her into the darkness on his horse”. “She kissed the frog and it turned in to the handsome prince”. ……….. Did you throw up in your mouth a little? I love those sappy love stories. Give me a beach chair, sunshine, and a harlequin romance novel and I’m in heaven. But, for some people their relationships are far from romance novels. In fact, for some, it is more of a horror story or an endless nightmare. Believe me, I’ve been there in the past and it is no fun at all. It is not normal to dread coming home. It is not normal to be “afraid” to have a discussion with another adult. These things are not good. They are not normal. Run, run far away. I know that there are folks out there that deal with this every single day from their significant others. In most situations, no one on the outside would know how miserable life is behind closed doors. You just put on a fake smile and keep acting as if things are perfect. I just want to say if you are sitting in this situation, this is just a small path. A sort of speed bump on the middle of your road. Do whatever you can to get out of that situation and (male or female), adjust your crown. You have so many unwritten chapters ahead of you. Don’t look back. Don’t regret. Just adjust your crown and move forward.
My mamaw was full of good. Just all around she was good. But good advise was her forte. She would always say “Tell that devil to get off your shoulder” when something not so pleasant would happen. Y’all I still say it today. I literally say it out loud. Thankfully I dont have a lot of “bad” things happen to me but, even when I get frustrated or over worry (Lordy lou do I worry), I say “devil, you aren’t getting me today” and then I think of her sweet laugh. There she was married to the same man for almost 75 years, laughing, and telling the devil to get off of her shoulder lol. I’m certain that the time that they had together was not always roses and rainbows. In fact I know it wasn’t. But the trials that they went through over the years made them who they were. I guess what I am trying to say is that each day we have in this beautiful life, well, its making us who we are suppose to be. There is nothing that you cant handle. God will never put more on you than you can stand. It may seem like it for a bit but, I like to think of it as a test. Not as in what you can endure but how you responded to it. You are here to flourish. You are here for a reason. Adjust your crown and carry on.
I think all of this not only applies to your relationships but even parenting and your career. Being a momma is one of the most wonderful gifts that I have been given. I have cherished every single day of being Walker’s momma. Even though it has been amazing, it is also hard. I mean here you are one of the most important people in that little boy’s life. If you make a mistake guess who’s watching. It takes its toll and I worried so much that I wasn’t too good at it. One day I realized that all I could do is love him and show that every day. Everything else would just fall in to place. It does fall in to place by the way. No matter how much you worry or hover or beat yourself up about it, all that matters in the end is that you did your best and loved that child with everything in your soul. As far as your career, lovelies you ARE going to have tough days. It’s called working with other humans. It’s not going to be perfect every day. What I learned to remind myself is that this is just a job. Yes, it is important. Yes, you have to get a paycheck. Yes, you have to work hard and do your best. But, at the end of the day, it is just a job. Do not let your career upset you to the point that you dread one single day. If it does control you then maybe it might be time to think about making a change. You know, adjust your crown and move one. As I say, if it takes your peace it’s not your path.
For those of you out there that have struggled in relationships I just want to encourage you to hang in there. Take care of yourself. I mean get out but, take care of you. I promise there is something wonderful out there waiting for you. I am living proof of that. I couldn’t ask for a better partner in life than my husband. We are truly blessed and I think my son will attest to that. You adjust your crown and don’t you dare let anything defeat you. God doesn’t make mistakes and he made you perfectly in his image. You are worth too much to so many to not take care of you! Have a truly blessed night. ❤️Always